Couples Therapy After Betrayal
Two people, two very different kinds of pain, one decision to make together.
Couples therapy for healing from sexual betrayal, all with the goal of building marriage 2.0
You're both still hurting, and you're hurting in ways that keep colliding.
One of you is living in trauma responses, checking, replaying, bracing. One of you is buried in shame that keeps coming out sideways. Left alone, this turns into the same fight on a loop: one pushing for answers, one defending, nothing resolving, both of you more alone than before.
This work is for couples navigating sexual betrayal in its many forms, including affairs, chronic infidelity, compulsive porn use, secret sexual behavior, hidden sex work or paying for sex, and sex addiction.
What I hear from couples who land here:
Every conversation about it turns into a fight or a shutdown
One of you needs to talk about it, the other needs it to be over
Trust is gone and neither of you knows how it could come back
You're not sure if you're trying to save this or just too scared to end it
I'm Kris Cristiano, LCSW, CSAT, and PACT trained. I don't run couples sessions where people come to unload on each other. If you want to yell, you can do that at home for free. I’m here to help couples build something new.
In my room, we build skills so you can talk differently, fight differently, and actually move forward. I'll always take the side of truth, safety, and accountability. I won't ask the hurt partner to minimize what happened, and I won't let the betraying partner dodge responsibility. That balance is the only place real repair happens.
I'll be direct with both of you. That's the point.
The Plan
Request a free 15-minute consultation
We’ll talk about what you're each looking for, why now, and what you're hoping for.
Assess and stabilize.
Through individual and joint sessions, we get a clear read on where things stand, contain the acute crisis, and set boundaries that make real work possible.
Structured Repair
Using the tools learned in individual therapy, you will learn to attune to each other, heal wounds, communicate, and see if a new relationship is possible.
WHERE THIS LEADS
Right now: the same fight on repeat, no trust, no traction, both of you exhausted.
With work: you can talk about the hurt without it blowing up into a fight.
Sometimes that decision is rebuilding. Sometimes it's ending things with honesty and care instead of more damage. I'm not here to push you toward either one. I'm here to guide you both so you can decide from a clear and steady place.
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No. You have to be willing to get honest and do the work. Where that leads is what we figure out.
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Yes! Individual work and couples work support each other, and more often than not, individual work needs to come first. We'll talk about what makes sense for you.
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For some couples, a structured therapeutic disclosure is part of the path. That's a specific process with its own [LINK] and needs to happen with individual therapists trained in the process. See the IITAP website for trained therapists in your area.
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Free, 15 minutes. I'll ask what you're each looking for, why now, and what you're seeking, and we'll see if I'm the right fit.
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This is always hard to hear. It can take 3-5 years to fully heal. This depends on so many factors, and that doesn’t mean you are in therapy for that long. But for your body to really start to feel safe again, it can take years.
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Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR)
Internal Family Systems (IFS: Also sometimes called Parts Work)
Psychobiological Approach to Couple Therapy (PACT)
Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT)
Dialectical and Behavioral Therapy (DBT)
Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT)
Psychodynamic approaches
Somatic Experiencing
Mindfulness-Based Therapy
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Unfortunately, no. I can provide superbills for reimbursement at a client’s request.
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This is what therapy is for. It’s to help you find the words to describe your experience. Words matter and finding those words can help you process and heal.
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Both. Whichever you prefer
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50 minutes
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I am licensed in and able to see clients in Colorado and Utah
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$175 per 50 minute session (Same pricing for individuals and couples)
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Sessions canceled within 24 hours will be charged for the full cost of the session. I understand that life happens, work happens, traffic happens and kids get sick. I am always willing to switch clients to virtual sessions last minute.